No, I’m not an expert on life, but I do believe that you get out what you put in! Here are my thoughts on getting what you want.
If you dread going to your job every day, find a new one.
Did I ever in 7 million years think I would be paying my bills from modeling at 26? Absolutely not. Am I happy with the fact I am? Absolutely. I love my job because it is something different every single day, and I meet people from all different industries. Find a job that keeps you on your toes, challenges you, and gives you little moments that make you smile and say “see, self, this is exactly why you’re doing this.”
Focus on the present and stop dwelling on the future.
How are you supposed to enjoy your life if you’re constantly worrying about when you’ll have enough money for a down payment on a house or enough to buy your dream car? Supporting your future self is important, but embracing your current self is, too. Practice your patience, let life lead you, and sit back for the ride.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Listen to your friends’ advice, but at the end of the day, make decisions based on what is best for you. Things happen for people at different times, and when the time is right, it will happen for you, too. Look at where you are now, and channel your energy into that.
Define your priorities.
Are you solely focused on working 80 hours a week in hopes of getting a promotion? Maybe you’re trying to invest more time into communicating with your long distance siblings. I am constantly having to check in with myself to make sure my actions are aligned with my priorities; always striving for that balance, even though life is full of distractions.
Saying no is just as important as saying yes.
If you are faced with an opportunity you don’t feel 100% about, don’t do it! Yes, I understand risk can sometimes pay off. But, if you feel like you would be going against your personal brand or beliefs, do not be afraid to say no! If you never say no, what do you really stand for?
“Me” time is always a good idea.
I’m a big believer in exploring on your own- whether it’s something drastic like taking a road trip or something simple like taking a walk down a different street of your neighborhood than usual, I think it’s good to see new things. I always feel refreshed when I take some time to myself, even if it’s just for 20 minutes. It forces you to check in with yourself, notice how you’re feeling, and gives you the chance to re-asses your goals.
Heels: Steve Madden
Now go out and start getting what you want!
All photos by Jerry Roxas Photography