Birthdays naturally bring heaps of emotions- happiness, fear, gratitude, excitement, anxiety, love, embarrassment (anyone else hate when the servers sing to you at dinner?? ugh). They have also gradually become a designated day of the year where I sort of check in with myself and do some major self-reflection. Since today marks the beginning of my birthday week (woohoo email me for present requests! jk), I have already found myself naturally pondering…
How far have I come in the past year? Am I succeeding? Am I in the right career? Have I achieved the goals I set on my last birthday? Do I surround myself with the right people?
Not like I don’t overanalyze everything already, but birthdays are really when I tend to overthink. This type of overthinking isn’t necessarily bad, though. It’s the kind where I’m writing the list of friends coming to my birthday celebration and I start thinking of them one by one. My mind drifts off on a tangent filled with experiences I’ve had with that person including how we first met, the drunken moment we realized we were totally BFFL’s, the times we’ve supported each other when one of us is unfolding from the pressure of maintaining a stable career, and the many memories ahead of us that remain untouched.
Slowly but surely, as the list grows, I think about the experiences I’ve been fortunate enough to share with each person. Each friendship and relationship is so different from one another, and I love that. In a sense, I start feeling extra thankful for all of the friends and family in my life, and I realize that is truly a blessing.
Birthdays are a perfect time to check in with yourself, but so is every single day. Every day is the right time to thank your mom and dad, support your sibling, send a sweet text to your bestie, and give your significant other an extra smooch. Every day is also an opportunity to listen to yourself, and to make sure you are where you want to be.
The great thing about life is that what lies ahead is still unwritten. We have the ability to change our paths, and to create our own futures. Life is too short to simply go through the motions or settle for less than your best. If you don’t enjoy your job, find a new one. If you have a broken friendship, fix it. If you don’t tell your family you love them every day, start doing it!
Treat every day like it’s your birthday- pat yourself on the back for accomplishing big goals and even tiny triumphs, re-evaluate the choices you are making that will ultimately affect your future, find your own bliss, and always eat cake. Always.
Xx, Paige (Your fave almost 24-year-old)